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Getting Started
Dr. Gordon has listed a multitude of potential concerns or problem areas you might be experiencing. Obviously, there are no quick easy answers to these issues. However, he has provided some information on each of the problems so can have a starting place of understanding and direction.
 
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Areas of Concern

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Areas: 
COMMUNICATION DIFFICULTIES

Do you know that the main reason for conflicts and relationship problems are a result of a communication breakdown? Misunderstandings, silent treatments, destructive anger, blaming, denial, dishonesty, lack of respect and more are just some of the communication problems that people encounter.

Let me suggest a few communication tips that might improve your relationships:

  • No matter who youíre talking to you must maintain an attitude of respect for that person.
  • Itís o.k. to disagree. You donít have to attack the person because you donít agree.
  • Donít use your words to harm another person under any circumstances.
  • Listen first, show empathy second and validate the other person third, even if you disagree.
  • You should have the freedom to express your thoughts, feelings and desires.
  • Women communicate to connect not control.
  • Men communicate to solve and exert independence not to create distance or conflict.
  • Most communication is non-verbal and body language not verbal content. Read the underlying message.
  • Give compliments, focus on whatís good and right. Be positive.
  • Apologize. Say Iím sorry and mean it. Even if youíre not 100% wrong.
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