Let me give you a few facts:
- Half of all marriages in the U.S. involve at least one episode of battering (Lenore Walker)
- Battering is the single major cause of injury to women in the U.S. (U.S. Surgeon General)
- Nearly 1/3 of female homicide victims are killed by their husbands (F.B.I. crime reports)
- One out of 26 women are beaten by their husbands in any given year
These are pretty sad situations. Unfortunately, spouse abuse is much more widespread that most of us know. It is crucial to recognize when youíre with someone who has an abusive personality, so you can prepare yourself to take action.
The following may be characteristic of an abuser:
- A push for quick involvement
- Excessive jealousy
- Over controlling
- Unrealistic expectations
- Blames others for problems and mistakes
- Makes everyone else responsible for their feelings
- Cruelty to animals or children
- "Playful" use of force during sex
- Verbal abuse
- Rigid roles
- Sudden mood swings
- Past battering
- Threats of violence
If you are experiencing any kind of verbal, mental, physical or sexual abuse, then you need to reach out and get help. Tell a friend, call a therapist, contact the police, go to a shelter, move out of the house, or call a spouse abuse hotline.
You donít deserve to be treated like this, and it is not your fault.