Getting Started
Dr. Gordon has listed a multitude of potential concerns or problem areas you might be experiencing. Obviously, there are no quick easy answers to these issues. However, he has provided some information on each of the problems so can have a starting place of understanding and direction.
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Areas of Concern

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Suicide is a terrible ordeal. Death is extremely painful for any of us to deal with when we have lost a loved one. But, when life is lost out of choice it is very traumatic for those involved.

I know one thing for certain – life is going to change – it keeps changing all the time – it doesn’t stay the same. Suicide is not reversible. There is no hope for life on earth after suicide. Before suicide there is hope for change, even if one can’t see it.

The following are signs to look for when someone is planning to commit suicide:

  • Often will speak of suicide or threaten it
  • Gives verbal hints, such as, “I won’t be a problem much longer” and “Nothing matters.”
  • Preoccupied with death and dying
  • Giving away of valued possessions or getting affairs is order
  • Significant changes in behavior
  • Major personality changes
  • Violent and rebellious behavior
  • Feelings of worthlessness
  • Sudden euphoria after a gloomy period
  • Extreme depression or anxiety
  • No future goals
  • Socially isolated
  • Failing in school, or loss of job or significant relationship
  • Past abuse
  • Previous suicide attempts
  • Highly self-critical

If a person is exhibiting many of these symptoms, then it is crucial to get them help. Suicide can be prevented, so we have to know what to look for and how to respond.

The following responses may be helpful:

  • Listen
  • Evaluate severity and intensity of thoughts and feelings
  • Ask specifically if the person is having suicidal thoughts, and if they have a plan
  • Be affirmative – loving – supportive
  • Evaluate available resources
  • Take action to intervene